HAPPY VALENTINE DAY

LOVE POETRY

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I think that I have found
Upon this wondrous ground
A friend for life, a love
Who is a touch above

Life's mediocrities
That blow in different seas
These special ones on earth
Who've been that way since birth

They touch lightly your heart
And never must you part,
For when you see their eyes
There can be no good-byes

So walk this way with me
Along this pathway free,
I shall not bind or tie
Our love or it would die
The way you turn me on
Is like the switch of a light
Because when I see you
I think: What a sight!
You brighten things up
Throughout the whole day
And when you're about to leave
I say to myself: Please stay

Some day you might be my lover
Some day you might be my friend
Whichever one comes first
I hope will never end
Although I don't really know you
You mean a ton to me
A ton as big as heaven
Is what I want you to see.

Now I'm not sure you're single
You might be happily in love
Whomever he might be
He is very lucky
If there's no one to fulfill
That great big happiness
That brings such great a feeling
Of sweet and joy and bless
I would be the one
To bring that all to you
I'll always do you right
If you want me to.
A rose for you

Contributed by Eldora04@aol.com
The day of love requires a companion,
But I find myself at this time all alone.
Words of sweet affection fill the morning
Like bells outside the windows of my room.

I don't know why I don't have someone with me.
I've loved and been loved through the restless years.
The mysteries of love I hold within me
Are a darkness unrelieved by moon and stars.

And yet I feel more love than I have ever
Felt within the circle of a kiss.
Love need not be a passion or a fever,
Nor does it need a hand for its caress.

Love does not require a companion.
It doesn't need an object or a home.
It flies above the ecstasy of morning
And fills the universe inside my room.
?webmaster@poemsforfree.com

It is almost here, that special time of year.
When hearts and flowers by the hours are
brought to all who seek; When kisses swirl
and words do peak into little tuffs of cotton
(candy) my sweet. So be my love and be my
own and call me on the telephone or send a
card, that is not hard, right to my waiting door,
and I'll be yours forevermore

Love Verses and Poems by Famous Poets

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Welcome to the famous poems and verses page. Poems expresses your feelings, in a very special and elegant way, and in a few words. We have tried to present a good collection of poems to you, and we are sure that you will like them. We also thank those who sent there poems to us for publishing

How do I love thee? Let me count the ways.
I love thee to the depth and breadth and height
My soul can reach, when feeling out of sight
For the ends of Being and ideal Grace.
I love thee to the level of every day's
Most quiet need; by sun and candle-light.
I love thee freely, as men strive for Right;
I love thee purely, as they turn from Praise.
I love thee with the passion put to use
In my old griefs, and with my childhood's faith
I love thee with a love I seemed to lose
With my lost saints,--I love thee with the breath.
Smiles, tears, of all my life!--and, if God choose,
I shall but love thee better after death.

Elizabeth Barrnett Browning

She walks in beauty, like the night
Of cloudless climes and starry skies,
And all that's best of dark and bright,
Meet in the aspect and her eyes;
Thus mellow'd to that tender light
Which heaven and gaudy day denies.

Lord Byron

If ever two were one, then surely we.
If ever man were lov'd by wife, then thee;
If ever wife was happy in a man,
Compare with me ye women you can
I prize thy love more than whole mines og Gold.
Or all the riches that the East doth hold.
My love is such that rivers cannot quench,
Nor ought but love from thee, give recompense.
Thy love is such I can no way repay,
The heavens reward thee manifold repay,
Then while we live, in love let's so persevere
That when we live no more, we may live ever.

Ann Bradstreet

All love, at first, like generous wine,
Ferments and frets until 'tis fine,
But, when 'tis settled on the lee,
And from th' impurer matter free,
Becomes the richer still the older,
And Proves the pleasanter the colder

Samuel Butler
Deare, when I from thee am gone,
Gone are all my joyes at once;
I loved thee, and thee alone,
In those love I joyed once,
And although your sights I leave,
Sight wherein my joyes do lie,
Till that death do sense bereave,
Never shall affection die.
John Downland

Through all eternity to thee
A joyful song I'll raise,
For oh! Eternity is too short
To utter all thy praise.

Joseph Addison
Never so happily in one
Did heaven and earth combine;
And yet 'tis flesh and blood alone
That makes her so divine
Thomas D'Urfey

O, my luve's like a red red rose
That's newly sprung in June
O my luve's like a melodie
That's sweetly played in tune
Robert Burns
I love thee, I love thee,
'Tis all that I can say;
It is my vision in the night,
My dreaming in the day.
Thomas Hood

What's in a name ? that which we call a rose
By any other name would smell as sweet;
So Romeo would, were he not Romeo called.
William Shakespeare

VALENTINE POEMS

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Is it really love?
or is it just a passing feeling
am I not convinced?
a bit uncertain of the feeling

Is it the way you make me feel?
so warm with joy and laughter
or could it be the happiness
from moments spent together

The lasting bliss, the kiss I miss,
The sweetest thoughts without a touch
The heart that hurts and bears a scar
thinking how far away you are

You're on my mind most of the day
And at night I go to bed and pray
An angel soft and gentle as you
Would make my sweetest dreams come true

Thinking about you alone or in class
Writing your name on my bathroom window glass
Wishing you were here
To love hold and care
Wishing I had you with me
To cherish and to stare

Into your soft and beautiful eyes
As we both travel to the skies
And mingle with the stars above
But is it really love?

I miss you terribly this day of love,

Miss you with a wound that stabs and aches.
I see the love around me, and it takes
So much strength simply just to move.
Soon, soon, my love, this waiting will be done.

You and I will have what we desire.
On days like this we'll sit beside the fire,
Undoing all the pain of days long gone.

Valentine's Day is a day of love
Where love is as bright as the sun
We share kisses, and even a hug
With people we call our loved ones
Unrequited love is oh! so harsh
When the one you love doesn't love you
You feel you're left standing in the dark
Wishing this reality were untrue
Well that's why Valentine's Day is so great
It encourages you to show you care
It makes you just wanna say
I love you and will always be there
I once loved someone in this way
And I was encouraged on Valentine's
I went up to him, just to say
I would like you to be mine
-Candice

December 22-23, 2004

I woke up in a white room
with white lace curtains.
Snow covered landscape;
I'm in Memphis for certain

Yesterday, it took over three hours
just to travel the last twenty miles.
But nothing is like my wife's family
always being greeted with smiles

I was hoping for a White Christmas.
You'd be surprise how simple I am.
Be careful what you wish for
God may be listening to your plan.

Most of the nation is covered
with that dangerous and beautiful thing
I am grateful for arriving safely
for my wife's happiness is everything.

She wanted to see her family,
her father, uncles and aunts.
I've kept her in Southwest Texas too long;
this trip I most willingly grant.

So, here we are now
in a snowy southern wonderland.
Waiting for Christmas dinner to come;
a present only my wife can understand

-by Juan Manuel Perez

TAGORE SELECTED LOVE POEMS

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THE TAME BIRD WAS IN A CAGE
by: Rabindranath Tagore (1861-1941)

THE tame bird was in a cage, the free bird was in the forest.
They met when the time came, it was a decree of fate.
The free bird cries, "O my love, let us fly to the wood."
The cage bird whispers, "Come hither, let us both live in the cage."
Says the free bird, "Among bars, where is there room to spread one's wings?"
"Alas," cries the caged bird, "I should not know where to sit perched in the sky."

The free bird cries, "My darling, sing the songs of the woodlands."
The cage bird sings, "Sit by my side, I'll teach you the speech of the learned."
The forest bird cries, "No, ah no! songs can never be taught."
The cage bird says, "Alas for me, I know not the songs of the woodlands."

There love is intense with longing, but they never can fly wing to wing.
Through the bars of the cage they look, and vain is their wish to know each other.
They flutter their wings in yearning, and sing, "Come closer, my love!"
The free bird cries, "It cannot be, I fear the closed doors of the cage."
The cage bird whispers, "Alas, my wings are powerless and dead."

UNENDING LOVE

by: Rabindranath Tagore

I seem to have loved you in numberless forms, numberless times...
In life after life, in age after age, forever.
My spellbound heart has made and remade the necklace of songs,
That you take as a gift, wear round your neck in your many forms,
In life after life, in age after age, forever.

Whenever I hear old chronicles of love, it's age old pain,
It's ancient tale of being apart or together.
As I stare on and on into the past, in the end you emerge,
Clad in the light of a pole-star, piercing the darkness of time.
You become an image of what is remembered forever.

You and I have floated here on the stream that brings from the fount.
At the heart of time, love of one for another.
We have played along side millions of lovers,
Shared in the same shy sweetness of meeting,
the distressful tears of farewell,
Old love but in shapes that renew and renew forever.

FIREFLIES

by: Rabindranath Tagore

I touch God in my song as the hill touches the far-away sea with its waterfall.

The butterfly counts not months but moments,and has time enough.
Let my love, like sunlight, surround you and yet give you illumined freedom.

Love remains a secret even when spoken, for only a lover truly knows that he is loved.
Emancipation from the bondage of the soil is no freedom for the tree.
In love I pay my endless debt to thee
for what thou art.

THE GARDENER

by: Rabindranath Tagore

If you would have it so,
I will end my singing.

If it sets your heart aflutter,
I will take away my eyes from your face.

If it suddenly startles you in your walk,
I will step aside and take another path.

If it confuses you in your flower-weaving,
I will shun your lonely garden.

If it makes the water wanton and wild,
I will not row my boat by your bank.

THE CHILD ANGEL

by: Rabindranath Tagore

Let your life come amongst them like a flame of light, my child,
unflickering and pure, and delight them into silence.

They are cruel in their greed and their envy,
their words are like hidden knives thirsting for blood.

Go and stand amidst their scowling hearts, my child,
and let your gentle eyes fall upon them like the
forgiving peace of the evening over the strife of the day.

Let them see your face, my child, and thus know the
meaning of all things, let them love you and love each other.

Come and take your seat in the bosom of the limitless, my child.
At sunrise open and raise your heart like a blossoming flower,
and at sunset bend your head and in silence
complete the worship of the day.

VALENTINE WALLPAPERS

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Things to keep in mind when giving a Valentine’s Day’s gift

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Valentine’s Day is approaching very quickly, prompting many people to think about appropriate gifts for the occasion. Many people believe it’s the most romantic day of the year whereas some others term it as a rather overly commercialized nightmare. Whatever your viewpoint is, you invariably need to prepare for this day as you cannot remain untouched by the romance in the air on the 14th of February.
With a bit of planning and innovative thinking, you can ensure a fun-filled and romantic Valentine’s Day. Instead of pushing a rushed delivery of flowers, or last-minute reservation request at a restaurant, think of your gift and locate your favorite romantic spot well in advance.

Tastes of different persons obviously are different, and there’s no such a thing as ideal Valentine’s gift idea. Buying a set of soft silk sheets in conventional colors like dark maroon or silver would make a good gift. It can be bought at any branded linen or upholstery showroom. Dress your bed and decorate a vase on a bedside table with some fresh flowers. When your lover walks in, he or she will get a real surprise!

Love charts its own undefined course. It varies in intensity and shades. Give him or her Valentine’s Day gifts to match your level of involvement and the intensity of your love. Your gift should not pass the wrong message.

To elaborate a bit, it should not denote that you are fully committed and sure of him as your guy or gal, when you are actually not! In fact, a deciding factor in what you gift should be how committed both of you are to each other.

If your relationship is nascent or you aren’t’ really sure of your committed, be content with gifting the easy candy or flowers. If you’re serious about the relationship, be more thoughtful and choose a gift with greater care so that he or she appreciates your gesture and accepts the apparent or subtle message regarding your desire for long term relationships.

Valentine’s Day gifts carry different connotations and associations for each person, and there is no such a thing as perfect Valentine’s gift idea. It all depends on the state, shade and depth of your relationship!

The thoughtful gift is the one that counts. Take the effort to get clues for what she or he really aspires for. This well might be a genre of book or music that they had mentioned as their choice. If they love collecting, get something worthy for their collectibles’ shelf.

Some tried and tested gift ideas for Valentine’s Day

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What is going to work this year? Well here are a few simple and inexpensive ideas that will warm the hearts of both sides and they work every time. Even though these unique gift ideas are sometimes common it is what guys and girls love to get as a gift for Valentines Day.

Here are some tried and tested gift ideas for Valentine’s Day:-

A well arranged bouquet of flowers

A well arranged bouquet of flowers with a nice note is the safest bet. It always works. Find out about your lover’s floral preferences. Lilies and Tulips are among the more popular choices. And, of course, the rose! Keep in mind the connotations and meanings attached with colors before you pick the flowers.

• White: Innocence, reverence, purity
• Yellow: Joy
• Red and White: Unity
• Red: Love, respect
• Pink: Grace, gentility
• Orange: Desire
• Two red roses joined together: Engagement or marriage (use it carefully)!
• Rose buds: Beauty, youth

Silk flowers & plants make a good gift idea since they last forever just like your love for him or her.

Chocolates

This one invariably works since it spells out sensuality. Nothing indeed melts a heart like Valentines Day chocolate. Keep in mind the taste of your sweetheart and whether he or she prefers dark chocolate, milk chocolate, chocolate truffles or nutty chocolate. They all send a message of love.

Jewelry

his is an idea that will invariably work for any women! Rings, earrings, watches, bracelets and necklaces all work! It may be a bit costly but nothing turns on the charm quite as much as a rich piece of jewelry. Opt for a simple pendant on a shining silver chain for a even more elegant look.

Perfumes

If she has a particular scent, find out what that perfume is! Talk to one of her friends on her choice of perfume. If you cannot figure out which perfume she likes, or she usually buys, simply stick to the more conventional, popular brands. Even men love a good fragrance. Pay attention to the perfume bottle. It should be stylish.

Bonsai

This ranks high on the novelty scale. It is synonymous with recent albeit deep relationships. You can also gift small plants etc. Avoid gifting cacti for obvious reasons!

Candle stand

It’s not as inane as it appears. Especially females are fond of candles. You can select some innovative designs on gift stores like those crafted of wrought iron or pewter. It would be a good idea adding scented candles.

A coffee maker

This ranks high on scale of practicality especially if he or she loves a hot cuppa. It’s a perfect gift if your best buddy is living as a paying guest or sharing an apartment with others. This will make sure that your best mate thinks of you with hot coffee every morning.

Hopefully these great Valentine’s Day gift ideas we have provided will help you bring a smile on your lover’s face this Valentine’s Day

Some more curious facts about Valentine’s Day

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The different legends about Valentine’s Day only emphasize his appeal as a heroic and romantic figure. Let’s know about some more curious facts about Valentine’s Day

Today, at least three different saints named Valentinus or Valentine are recognized by the Catholic Church. Incidentally, all of them were martyred.

Some think that the day is celebrated to commemorate the anniversary of Valentine’s burial or death that probably occurred around 270 A.D. Others claim that the Christian church may have decided to celebrate Valentine’s feast day in February to ‘christianize’ the pagan Lupercalia festive celebrations.

In the UK, the day began to be celebrated on mass-scale around the 17th century. By the middle of the 18th century, it became common for lovers and friends in all social strata to exchange tokens of affection or handwritten notes.
Later, printed cards replaced handwritten notes owing to upgrading printing technology. Ready-made cards turned an easy means for people to convey their emotions in a time when direct expression of one’s sentiments was not encouraged.
Americans probably started exchange of hand-made valentines in the beginning of the 18th century.

Valentine greetings used to be popular even in the Middle Ages (written Valentine’s didn’t start to appear till after 1400).
The oldest known Valentine card is displayed at the British Museum.
Esther A. Howland. Howland created the first commercial Valentine’s Day greeting card in the 1840s in the US.

Valentine Symbols

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Symbols are sometimes better than words and valentine symbols can work wonder as Valentine’s Day gifts when they are endowed with series of meanings comprehensible only to the ones who are in love. So the scholars of the romance world use these valentine symbols as medium for expressing and intensifying love. And if you are thinking that the use valentine symbols has only started with Valentine’s Day flowers or cupid pictures or heart symbols, nothing can be less further from the truth. Dolphins, pendants, crystal ornaments and butterflies were some of the popular valentine symbols, which were used, in the earlier times.

With the passage of time, Valentine symbols have undergone changes and new and more romantic symbols have come to replace the old ones. Some of the new Valentine symbols are Heart, cupid, rose flower, love knot, lovebirds and doves. So enchant your darling by giving some personalized Valentine’s Day gifts in the form of some of the most romantic Valentine symbols and express your love in one of the most elegant ways.
Romantic Roses
'Oh, my love is a red, red rose' ~ Poets and scholars have likened the beauty of their sweethearts to that of roses. Rose, as the queen of flowers, symbolizes peace and war, love and forgiveness. Valentine's Day is a time to send flowers and gifts to your loved ones but beware! Some of these beautiful messengers may transmit wrong messages. Take the most common flowers, roses for instance. There are formal meanings of different colored roses in some cultures. Each of these meanings is still used in society today, so choose your color with care. White roses are for true love and purity of the mind. Red roses are for love and passion. Yellow roses are for friendship. Black roses mean farewell. Pink roses mean friendship or sweetheart. So pick up the right Valentine’s Day flowers this time to tell all that you wanted to say.

Cupid

Cupid, the mischievous son of the Goddess of Love, Venus, is supposedly responsible for people falling in love. According to the myths, anyone being hit by Cupid's arrow falls in love with the first person he/she sees. His mischievous intentions have led to some entertaining situations in various legends. Cupid in the Roman mythology has Eros, the son of Aphrodite, as his counterpart in the Greek Myths. The names of both these Gods are used synonymously with the concept of love today. Ribbons, Laces and Frills

Ribbons, laces and frills as perfect Valentine symbols have been used since the ancient times of knights and nobles who used to wear the scarf adorned with ribbons, laces and frills specially prepared by their beloveds. Since then the ribbons, laces and frills have been used for symbolizing love in one of the most graceful ways.

Love Knot

Young women in strict Muslim households used to send their pledges of love to young men through messages woven through the knots of a carpet in an Arab tradition. This tradition of sending messages through the knots gave birth to the concept of love knots that continues to this day.

Hearts

To a beloved, there is no symbol as important as the heart. To give someone one's heart means to give to him or her one's whole being, for the heart is at the center of one's existence. The heart stands for the most profound and noblest of human emotions- that of love. Through ages, it has inspired millions to rise above the mundane cares and to get lost in the thought of their beloved. Thus a heart, pierced by the cupid's arrow, has become the most famous of the valentine's symbols.

Love Birds and Doves

It was believed that on this romantic day, birds found their mates. This belief is still cherished by love struck people all over the world. The sweet little blue coloured lovebirds have come to signify that belief. It is said that the lovebirds can't live without their mates. Dove, in the Christian belief signifies purity, meekness and innocence. Hence, these two birds have become the most endearing symbols of the spirit of Valentine’s Day.

Love At First Sight

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Ever felt a smile crossing across your face when a face breezes by you? The world seems more beautiful, the weather always perfect and your dream girl or guy the most wonderful person on this planet. If you are feeling all these and searching for valentine’s day ideas or a person for flower delivery for some time now; then let me tell you my friend, you are in love.

It can happen to anybody at any place, on any day. At first you fall in love or get attracted to the physical being of a person. As it is said appearance does matter.

After all that’s all one sees when it’s the case of love at first sight. Something catches your attention, like her smile, his physique or the enchanting eyes.

The mood also plays an important role in sealing the perfect moment. If you are tired, sad, angry or irritated your dream man or girl may pass you by without you even glancing back. The nature conspires to bring lovers closer. Also you should be open in your mind to receive love.

It’s a state of mind, knocking the doors of the heart.

So how do you know that you have fallen in love? Of course things look rainbow colored from that moment but friends let’s just get sure.
You know you have fallen in love with her/him when…
You see stars in the morning! No, you haven’t banged your head but feeling the compulsion of love. Your life stops and all you can think of is her/him. You don’t seem to get anything done and every moment your sweetheart’s face comes in front of you.
You start missing your love like you haven’t seen her in ages, when actually you just said goodbye.

Your sweetheart is flawless. You overlook all her faults and weaknesses. You believe true love can overcome all. This is love at first sight.

You can’t stop smiling when your beloved is around. You are all happy and joyful. But as soon as he/she leaves, your world collapses in front of you. You become sad and depressed.

You are not a very compromising person but your sweetheart had changed you completely. Now you are more flexible and a wonderfully understanding person.

So now you know that love at first sight is very much true. Believe in love and make your emotions fly on the wings of joy. On this Valentine's Day, don’t be scared to fall in love. It’s a beautiful emotion that promises to make your world a merry go round. Just remember, love has its ups and downs. So rise with the sunshine and open your arms to the Valentine fever. Happy Valentine’s Day!

Valentine Present Ideas

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Valentine's Day is characterized by mutual exchange of gifts between lovers. Lovely valentine presents are gifted to the sweethearts on this day. Markets get flooded with beautiful Valentine's Day presents and gifts at the onset of month of February. Valentine presents are of great importance as they become beautiful memories of this special day. Every lover starts searching for a unique valentine gift for his or her beloved from well before the Valentine's Day. A present received at Valentines Day is remembered for ever. It is the perfect time to express your deeply felt love and your gift will speak on your behalf.
Boys like gifts that are useful for them, while girls love decoration items, stuffed toys, flowers and jewelry. These and many other ideas can be found from different sources. Ideas are generated by human minds only, so you can also try to come up with your own unique ideas for deciding the Valentine gift for your lover.

Selection of Valentine’s Day gifts is a tough task, as it needs lot of thinking. A gift has to be such that it augments one’s love and not diminish it. Romantic presents; if not chosen properly can also cause an adverse effect on the love relationship. For an ideal gift, start thinking about what to purchase much in advance. Only then you can find an apt gift. Romantic Valentine gifts ignite the love flame into the relationships. Sometimes a bunch of roses can be perfect but sometimes an expensive diamond ring might not do the trick. It all depends upon the likes, dislikes and interests of the receiver of the gift. Many females like stuffed toys very much, so their lover – knowing about their affinity towards stuffed toys must give them with a cute one on Valentine’s Day.

Valentine’s Day is fast approaching! Good luck with your search for Valentine presents…

flirting eyes contact

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Flirting is a spontaneous and natural instinct of human beings and occurs as a normal response to somebody you find appealing. This natural way of expressing interest in someone you like can convert into friendship or love though not necessarily. Flirt efficiently by means of flirting gestures like eye contact so that the person is irresistibly drawn to you. There are a very few intelligent people who can flirt confidently and create good feelings in others as well in themselves. Flirting is a signaling mechanism and we all are gifted with the power of signaling but it's very important to know how to send the correct signals and also how the signals sent by you are affecting others. Use flirting as your communication tool for giving the proper signal but make sure that none of your words or gestures makes way to some wrong message.

Take it as a fun and enjoy this game to draw someone's attention and have a good time. To flirt you should have the knack of conveying that you like someone and once you are able to make him/her know that he/she seems to be interesting to you then that person will be more tempted to like you. To convey that you like someone, you need to use a combination of your words and flirting gestures. Our body can send send some very powerful signals instinctively to pave the way for flirting. Among the non-verbal signals eye contact probably plays the most significant role in flirting. With eye contact you can speak a thousand words with your eyes without a word ever crossing your lips.

Use eyes as your most important flirting tool. If you know how look at another person and captivate him/her with your moving glances then you can surely make your flirtation successful and enjoyable. Brief glances directly into the eyes of the person you want to flirt with is a very powerful tool in flirtation. Even in a crowded party you can attract someone towards you by an inviting gaze. Your glances can be accompanied with your gentle smile. The woman's eyes rest momentarily on a likely man and then willingly she looks away as she notices his look. Once you are sure about the other person's interest make eye contact again and again to start the conversation. During conversation glance at her face frequently,glance away when you are speaking and keep on making brief eye contacts. Don't overdo the eye contact or stare offensively- this can make the other person feel uncomfortable. Look on her face gently to reveal your inner goodness.

Flirting gestures

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Flirting gestures
Flirting is an art of revealing your positive aspects through your talk and gestures so that the people you want to draw attention are irresistibly attracted by you. You can use this natural gift of flirting which nature presented us since our birth. Just like other human actions flirting is guided by some unwritten rules or laws which we follow instinctively. You can't deny this essential and universal quality of human interaction. Use flirting as your communication tool for giving the proper signal but before that you must know how how do your words and gestures are affecting others and the art of giving the correct signal so that none of your signals makes way to some wrong message.

Tips and Ideas for Flirting
Flirting is far more than just a bit of fun .A good flirt can create a very positive effect on people as they are creating good feelings in others, whoever they want to. Even a smile or some good words can be an excellent way of flirting if you know how to do it and then choose the proper way of using it. Usually those people who are a good communicator are good in flirting. Appreciate the person you want to flirt with but be careful that the attributes or appraisal suits on them because people don't like insincere person. Try the following flirting gestures and learn to flirt successfully to see how the world presents before you fun,happiness and love.

Flirting gesture 1: Give direct eye contact with proper facial expressions to convey the emotional message. Learn to deliver it well to have the desired impact. The woman's eyes rest momentarily on a likely man and then willingly she looks away as she notices his look.

Flirting gesture 2: Send some subtle,subconscious signals such as woman's pushing her finger through her hair when first meeting a man.

Flirting gesture 3: Casual touches such as a woman gently touching a man's arm during conversation.

Flirting gesture 4:Smiling suggestively to have a favor or approval or to express cheerful acceptance.

Flirting gesture 5:Winking: Do it in proper way to convey a message to give a correct signal.

Flirting gesture 6:Sending notes,poems or small gifts to impress the person.

Flirting gesture 7:Whisper: Specially the women lean over and speak into her friend's ear.

Flirting gesture 8:Send short charming glances with an average of three at a time.

Flirting gesture 9:Do fondling with your keys,slide your hands up and down a glass,playing with toys or other things on the table send some very sensual message.

Flirting gesture 10:Coy smile: She gives you a kind of half smile,with a downward gaze or a very brief eye contact.

For boys,be a gentleman and go out of your way to treat her like a princess and show her that you want to be someone who strives to “be there” for her. Women love to be with charismatic guy,feel good about yourself so that others feel good about you. For women carry something that is noticeable or eye-catching,separate yourself from the group of friends so that you become more approachable

Flirting Signals

2007-08-30T13:41:00.001-07:00

Flirting Signals
Flirting is not just about giving out signals. It is more of becoming aware of what other people are doing.

Once you become more alert of your signaling methods, you can also learn to play with the gestures you give out every time you intend to impress the lovely lass beside you.

By doing so, you stand more chance of getting your message across. A successful flirt knows how to send out the Flirting signals without faltering to get the desired result.

Tips and Ideas for Flirting
Every one has his or her characteristic flirting signals. While women coil their hair or lick their lips, a man might fiddle with his tie or run his hand through his hairs. There are some commonly used signals which portends that the person is flirting. Flirting techniques depends from person to person. In order to get the desired result, one must first learn the nuances of flirting.

Be careful while you steal glances from the person you are interested in, for she or he may not take your gestures candidly. If you are desperate to get out of the ‘Friend’ zone and make an entry into the ‘Potential Lover ‘category with any woman, its time you master the art of flirting properly.Here is an index of techniques of Flirting. To know more about flirting signals go through the following flirting tips:

a)Smiling: Practice your smile in front of the mirror, so that it is big enough to be noticed. A casual grin is surely not going to help you. A big generous smile will certainly attract the concerned person’s attention. So next time you see him or her, show up with a benign smile. Its is one of the most successful non verbal flirting.

b)Getting caught looking: Most people turn back when their object of desire comes across in a party or gathering. If you really want to let that person know about your interests you are interested, do not shy away. Instead hold eye contact with her for a moment longer and then look away.

c) Waving. If you think you are staring for long at the person you are interested in, little wave meaning ‘Hello’ to him or her can save you from the embarrassment which you could have faced.

d) Winking: Winking is not advisable if you don’t know the person. If you are familiar with the person, then a quick wink as a response to a funny joke can be welcomed. Make it sure you don’t wink very often because that can send wrong signals. e) Holding eye contact: While you are talking to her, maintain eye contact with her for at least some of the time.

f) Using the Good-bye compliment: If you are one of those who are shy and do not dare to resort on the bold flirting signals, then the good-bye compliment may be just the right thing you need. On your way out, simply go up to the woman or man you want to flirt with, and say her ‘Hi’ and praise her about her dressing sense and then leave. This will leave a good impression on her mind about you.

Flirting Hints

2007-08-30T13:40:00.000-07:00

Flirting Hints
Learn to play with the gestures you give out every time you intend to impress the lovely lass beside you. By doing so, you stand more chance of getting your message across. A successful flirt knows how to send out the flirting hints without faltering to get the desired result.

Every one has his or her characteristic flirting hints. While women coil their hair or lick their lips, a man might fiddle with his tie or run his hand through his hairs. There are some commonly used signals which portends that the person is flirting. Flirting techniques depends from person to person. In order to get the desired result, one must first learn the nuances of flirting.

Tips and Ideas for Flirting
Flirting can be an exiting game if you can drop the right flirting hints at the right time. When you get to spot your amorous interest around, try to gain his or her attention by dropping the appropriate and effective flirting hints. After you locate him or her, try to figure out if he or she is showing any interest. Stare at him or her for once and then wait and watch if she or he looks back at you. Learn to study the body language of the person concerned.

If you see that the person is showing interest, smile at her or him. A benign smile can help you to bring closer. A smile followed by a wink can even head you towards your success. Be careful before you progress because a wink is a more desperate gesture. Think before you jump in to such desperation. First study her looks.

If you think she’s enough open, then you can try this trick.Now when you see her blushing at your wink, you can go up to her to say her ‘Hi’ and the rest will follow. Always remember all you need to win your date is to carry the right attitude.

Flirting Advice

2007-08-30T13:38:00.000-07:00

Flirting Advice
If you have it in you, you are a born winner. For those who hesitate, surely they need a flirting advice as their instant rescuer.

When it comes to describe flirting, it can be put as a negotiation process that takes place after there have been some initial exchange of messages. As the process continues, flirting enhances the attraction that increases in the process. The efficiency of this nonverbal flirting depends upon the flirting techniques you are using.
Tips and Ideas for Flirting

If you are a beginner, go slow in the beginning. Don’t show up everything that’s in your mind. Neither men nor women would like such an aggressive overture. It is better to leave few things for the other person to find out. Try to know if the person you are interested in is at all noticing your gestures. If you find her or him looking at you, immediately grab the opportunity to return back your glance with a smile. Don’t try to shy away, if she or he looks at you. Recognize his or her glance and send back a longer gaze with a clear benign smile. Here is a set of flirting advice to help you in those situations where you feel helpless.

Once you feel certain about this initial swap of glances, don’t dare to go to her and talk at once. Try to get along with the people she’s interacting with or put yourself near her in such a manner that you get an obvious reason to say ‘Hi’ to her. Put yourself so meticulously that it doesn’t seem to be a pre planned move.

Every move of this mission flirting should be tactful yet docile. Keep it mind that flirting signs should be clear and subtle.Now when you are quite near to her or him and you are confident, you can always say him or her ‘Hi’ and approach for a general discussion. Do not start pouring in praises at the first meet. Opt for a general topic. And when you are signing off just drop a message of admiration. That would be a smart beginning of a date.

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Is He Flirting ???

2007-08-30T13:35:00.000-07:00

Is He Flirting
If you are confused about the person’s intentions that seem to be hitting on you for quite sometime, you surely need to learn about the flirting signals. ‘Is he flirting?’ is often the question that looms around a woman’s mind, when she finds a guy staring at her, smiling and at times waving at her. If you find these gestures unusual, then its time for you to understand the nuances of flirting.

When you see the guy stealing glances, smiling at times and running his hand through his hairs every time his eyes meet yours , know that he is flirting. Do not raise your brows to such gestures. Instead enjoy this silent communication.

Here is a list of flirting tips to find out is he flirting or not. Following are activities which prove that the guy is flirting.

1.Usage of Flattery: Flattery is most effectual when there is a factor of surprise. Compliment someone when he or she expects it the least. “I didn’t know you can look so good in red”. This may be an effective catch line which you can use. Unnecessary flattery can make matters worse. So be careful while you choose your words.

2.Flirtatious Handshakes: While you are parting from the person you are interested in, shake hands with him or her. Make sure this contact of hands conveys the message you intend to deliver. Hold his or her tightly for the number of seconds you hold hands. The strength of the hold will send a silent message that you take him or her seriously.

3.Direct Eye contact: Always maintain direct eye contact. Shying away can exempt you from getting the desired result. Direct eye contact emanates confidence.

4.Repeat the name of the person: After you get introduced to the person, repeat his or her name at least three times while you converse with him or her. This will send out the message that you are interested in remembering his or her name and would like to remember it for long.

If you find that the guy is doing all the above activities with finesse, don’t question is he flirting or not. Surely he is hitting on you and you would be missing out on some fun if you do not reciprocate. To know is he flirting or not, click onMydearvalentine.com. Learn more on smiles stares, Flirting, Flirting Signals, when he says hi, smiles, Flirting techniques, Stares, Flirting gestures from this site

Is she Flirting ???

2007-08-30T13:33:00.000-07:00

Is she Flirting
Women are best at flirting. Probably they do it with more finesse and subtlety. Be careful while you are chatting with a woman. Learn her gestures. Is it just a friendly approach from her side? Is she flirting?

To know is she flirting or not you should first know the flirting signals that are often received from the women. Sharpen your senses and read on to know about the woman who’s in all smiles while you are chatting with her.The following flirting signs are good for all settings, whether in a coffee shop, restaurant, nightclub, or at work. So sharpen your senses and read on the flirting indicators to hit her back in your style.

Is she flirting? Yes, she is flirting if you see her doing the following:

If she gazes in your eyes with interest and if you see her pupils widened.

If you see her blushing

If you see her legs crossed and pointed towards you or if her same leg is dangling back and forth towards you.

If she raises or lowers the level of her voice, to match up with yours.

If she strokes her chin or feels her cheek.

If she winks at you while talking to you or from a distance.

If she expose the palms of her hand in front of you.

If you find her sitting straight up and if her muscles appear to be firm.

If she laughs in agreement with you.

If you find her touching your arm, shoulder or hand while talking to you.

If she plays with her jewelry, while she is on conversation with you.

If she curls her hair while talking to you.

If she singles you out in a big crowded area and talks only to you

If you notice too much of the fluttering of eyes.

If you see the woman engaged in most of the above mentioned activities, know for sure she’s flirting with you and that too with amazing finesse. Women can be extremely playful when it comes to flirting.

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How to know if She likes me?

2007-08-30T13:31:00.000-07:00

How to know if She likes me?
I am in love! She has completely bowled me over! It seems she is also interested in me! These lines often disturb men a lot. Women are difficult to understand. Men always get confused with the behavior of women. It is impossible for a man to read a woman's mind. On the other hand, women have an expertise in hiding their feelings. If you want to get rid from all these feelings then apply a few significant tips.

Tips to find out if She likes me or not

While talking with you, if the girl blinks her eyes frequently then she is also loves you.

In case, girl sits in front of you with crossed legs pointing towards you then it signifies that she likes you.

If the girl is frequently touching you then she is interested in you. For instance, she is touching your shoulders, hands etc. '

Biting of lips is another great significant tip to know, if she likes you or not.

Her cheeks turn pink, when you are around her. This clearly signifies that she likes you.

If she tries to raise or lower the volume of voice in accordance with you then it signifies love for you.

In case, she frequently touches her chin and cheeks then do not think twice and express your love, as she is thinking about you.

Rubbing of wrists upwards and downwards is another sign of love.

While sitting in a group, she concentrates only at you is a great indication that she likes you.

While sitting with you, she keeps playing with her jewelry is an indication of liking.

She looks at you with great interest. Her pupils also get dilated simultaneously. This is a great indication that she likes you.

How to know if She likes me?

2007-08-30T13:27:00.000-07:00

top ten fliting tips

2007-08-30T13:24:00.000-07:00

Flirting is a fun! It requires immense talent and creativity. If you want to enjoy it then apply the given below techniques.

1.Fun is always the key factor while flirting. You must be playful, spontaneous and humorous.

2.Looking directly in eyes is a great flirting feature. Gaze continuously for a while then take off your eyes from the person.

3.Frequent compliments are great way of flirting. But, it would be advisable to be honest and sincere while complimenting the person.

4.If you want to begin the conversation then a small hi or hello would be adequate.

5.Try to be good listener. It is a great art to listen others. This art will make you more likeable and charming.

6.A permanent smile on face will make you more demanding. People automatically get drawn towards you. Everyone loves a smiling face.

7.It would be advisable to act as a host, instead of guest. This feature will make you approachable and easily accessible.

8.Your attitude must be positive. Enthusiasm is another great factor while flirting.

9.If you want to be a great flirt then always approach first. You must be the first person to say hi.

10.Props are great way to begin a conversation. This would also enhance the conversation. For instance, start your conversation with dogs, jewelry, perfume etc.

gals be ready 2 flirts

2007-08-30T13:21:00.000-07:00

Ladies: Flirting 101

Every woman has a sexy flirt inside of her capable of getting a man’s attention. However, not all women carry the self confidence or know-how on bringing this flirtatious side out. Flirting plays a big part in the dating world. In fact, you cannot score a date with any man unless you give them the green light- a sign that expresses that we are interested in them. After all, women are not the only ones struggling with doubts and insecurities about themselves. Men also feel insecure and unsure on how to put themselves out there. They are afraid of reading a woman wrong, fear getting rejected and are also intimidated by women they find very attractive. So, if you see a man you think is attractive and you want to get the communication started, you have to help the boy out a little! By helping him out, you will help yourself out too- because you like him and want to talk to him, so let the flirting begin…

Flirting does not have to be very aggressive. It depends on your personality. If you naturally a shyer person, then you will want to be quieter with your flirting, but still send out a strong message. If you are not all that shy and you have a more aggressive personality, then you can be more obvious and vocal with your flirting. Here are some flirting tips you can use the next time you see a guy you want to acquaint and get to know better.

Shy Girls:

1. Make eye contact with a smile.

If you come across a man that catches your eye, look at him in the eyes and give him a gentle smile. The smile is an invitation, letting him know that you are open to be friendly with him.

2. If he smiles back, Turn Around!

Once you make contact and smile at him, the ball is in his court. He smiles back, keep walking. After a few second, slowly turn around and smile at him again. He most likely will be checking you out if he finds you attractive, so he will see this and will smile back at you again. If he has the courage, he will come up to you and start talking- and you can take it from there.

3. Swirl your feet

If you are sitting down when you see a man you like, then give him a friendly smile and swirl one of your feet around slowly if you are wearing a skirt. The smile and eye contact will let him know you are into him, but swirling your foot will draw his attention to your legs and he will be even more curious about you. Remember, men are visual creatures, so make sure he sees your physical qualities. If you are sitting but are not wearing a skirt, then you can do something else to draw his attention to your physical sexiness! For example, you could tilt your head slightly upwards and rub your neck a little, as if you do not know he is looking, but in fact he will be watching you rub your sexy neck!

Not so Shy Girls:

1. Stare and Speak!

When you see a man you like, the eye contact rule still applies, since eye contact is the most powerful tool when trying to connect with someone. However, if you are not that shy and do not mind taking a bolder step, you can also speak to him as he walks by, or as you walk by him. You can flirtingly say hello in a soft voice and smile as he says hello back, gently looking him up and down. This will make it obvious to him that you are interested, without being too aggressive and over doing it- but definitely flirty enough!

2. Start Conversation

If you are willing to make the first move and make your intentions even more obvious, without actually throwing yourself at him, you can start a conversation with him. Come up with an excuse to talk, such as asking for directions, an opinion on something- or even to borrow his pen- whatever it takes to get the two of you talking. If he is interested in you as well, you will not have to work too hard, because he will be friendly and flirty right back at you! You two can talk and then take it from there.

3. Give or Ask for Digits!

Face it- if you just ran into this guy by chance- then there I a high chance you may not see him again- unless one of you take a bold move. If you do not have a problem making bold moves, you can ask him for his phone number (if he does not beat you to it first), or you could write down your number and hand it to him with a smile. If there really is chemistry between you, then he will want to be in touch with you again- as soon as possible!

Remember: Regardless of whether you are shy or more aggressive, one of the most important and most attractive thing a woman can do is Smile! It gives a friendly vibe and shows him that you are a happy, non-threatening flirting woman. Plus, smiling brightens your face and gives him a chance to see your real beauty!

is am in love ????

2007-08-29T17:58:00.000-07:00

How to Know if You're Really in Love
It is a very common question, "How can I tell I'm in love?", but it is not an easy question to answer. What feels like love to one person may be nothing more than attraction to another. Some people fall in and out of love quickly and often while others are never really in love as much as they are in lust. This can get confusing when you are a teen because romantic love is a relatively new concept for you and you don't know what to expect. You are overwhelmed with all sorts of new feelings and social pressures. They are confusing. What is love? What makes you want a romantic relationship with one person and not another? How does your heart choose a partner? Why does love end? These questions can't be easily answered.

One of the most confusing quasi-love feelings is lust. Lust is a very powerful, very intense feeling of physical attraction toward another person.

Lust is mainly sexual in nature - the attraction is superficial based on instant chemistry rather than genuine caring. Usually we lust after people we do not know well, people we still feel comfortable fantasizing about. It is very common for people to confuse lust for love. But why? What is it about lust and love that make them so easy to mix up? If lust is all about sex, how can a relationship without sex be about lust? Teens struggle with this because they see lust in the Biblical sense, but lust isn't that sinister. Lust is about physical attraction and acting ONLY on physical attraction. Love is about much more than that. Yet many teens (and to be fair, many adults) confuse an intense attraction for some sort if divine love. For teens, since feelings of attraction are still new and since pop-culture sells sex and love as one package, it is very easy to get the two mixed up.

Lust is clearly not love. Love is based on more than just physical attraction. Sure, attraction is a factor, but love goes deeper than that. Love is based on caring, friendship, commitment and trust. When you are in love it is as if you have your best most trusted friend at your side AND you feel physically attracted to them. It is the best of both worlds! Love is a shared feeling between two people who have a vested interest in one anothers happiness. Love is not about jealousy. It is not about conflict. It is not about testing. Love is a positive feeling. If it is tainted by mistrust, jealousy, insecurity or spitefulness it is not really love but merely a pale copy. Love is the total surrender of your heart to another person with the security of knowing they will treat it better than you will. Love should feel good. It should not feel bad. Love should make you want to be a better person, it should not lead you to do something self destructive. Love is not demanding of your spirit but lifts it and makes it glow. Love is a good thing. Anything less is lust, deep friendship or attraction. So the sappiness aside, the question remains, how can you tell you are in love?

There is no easy way to find the truth behind your feelings or the feelings of another person but there are some tell-tale signs that love is blooming (or growing deeper). If you agree with 7 of the following 9 statements you are probably in love.

1. You know, because you have been told by your significant other, that your deep feelings are returned in kind.
2. The object of your affections makes you feel special and good about yourself.
3. If/when you feel jealous it is always fleeting; you trust your partner not to betray you or hurt your relationship.
4. Nothing makes you feel as serene as when you and your partner are together.
5. When you fight with your partner you usually make up within a few hours and you always agree that nothing is more important than you both being able to express your true feelings (even if they sometimes cause conflict).
6. Your partner never asks you to choose between him/her and your loyalties to your family and friends - if you do choose him/her over them you always have a good reason and it is always YOUR decision, and your decision alone.
7. Neither you or your partner feel the need to test the other's loyalties or feelings.
8. You are more yourself when with your partner than you are with anybody else.
9. If sex is part of your relationship it is by mutual desire and agreement without the slightest hint of commitment testing or persuasion.

12 sure fire signs that the end is near.

2007-08-29T17:57:00.000-07:00

12 sure fire signs that the end is near.
Getting dumped -- it happens to the best of us and nothing feels worse. Losing love is hard enough but add rejection to the mix and it can be devastating. When you've been dumped it feels like your world is closing in to smother you and you wonder if you will ever feel happy again. The good news is "yes" one day you will feel happy again, you will love again and the loss will become nothing more than a life experience. But when you are in the middle of it, caught in those end days of a once blossoming relationship, it can feel like the confusion will never end.
Relationships don't just end. It doesn't play that one day you are part of a happy couple floating around blissopolis only to find that the next day you are flying solo and moving in to dumpsville. Like it or not you can always see a break up coming.
There are always clues. When we sense a looming break up we often retreat in to denial and this is why actually being dumped seems like such a shock. But the reality is that anybody who is willing to look can see the writing on the wall long before the relationship actually ends. What kind of things signal that the relationship is coming to a close? Here are the 12 most common signs that the end is near.
1. S/he is suddenly busy all the time, and never seems to have time to spend with you. When you find yourself becoming less and less of a time priority, even if the reasons for the distance seem logical, it is never a good thing.
2. You find that only your fingers do any walking. If you are the only one who ever picks up the phone, especially if the phone calling used to be split pretty equally, break up bells should start ringing.
3. When you call, more often than not you are asked to leave a message. Be it a parent, sib or friend, if somebody else always seems to answer the phone and take a message you are probably being screened, and we don't screen people we want to talk to!
4. S/he says s/he is one place but is really another. People do not tend to lie for no reason, if s/he is not being honest about where s/he is or who s/he is with there is rarely a noble reason for the deception.
5. You don't seem to connect anymore. Remember how when you were first getting together you would run into each other in unexpected places, like between classes or at the mall? If these "accidental" meetings become less common place it may be no accident at all.
6. Her/his friends seem distant. When somebody wants out of a relationship they often let their friends in on the secret well ahead of time. If your steady's friends seem less friendly it is a good indicator that they know something you don't and that it probably isn't good.
7. The lovin' is gone! When affection and PDAs (public displays of affection) start to dwindle it could mean the fire of love is also going out.
8. S/he starts introducing you to new people as "a friend". If s/he is calling you a friend that is all s/he sees you as -- bottom line.
9. You seem to be fighting a lot about little things. Lots of little fights often mean much bigger things are really at issue.
10. Kissing and telling. Respect is a relationship essential, once it has been compromised the relationship often follows suit.
11. You just can't seem to do ANYTHING right. Be it the style of your hair or the way you walk, if your steady suddenly finds fault with everything you do s/he is probably trying to push you away.
12. You aviod any conversation that begins with "we have to talk" or "I don't know how to say this." If your steady is using these opening lines a break up speech usually follows. If you are avoiding conversations that start like this it is probably because you sense that a break up is near and think that if you avoid the talk it won't happen. You are wrong. If a person wants out of a relationship they will get out whether you let them tell you or not. Avoiding this talk is just prolonging the inevitable.
Break ups can be harsh but they hurt less if you face facts rather than hide from the truth. Good luck!

5 things your girlfriend doesn’t want you to know

2007-08-29T17:50:00.000-07:00

The girlfriend code broken.
Last week we took a look at the 5 biggest secrets that boyfriends keep from their girlfriends, the 5 things we can’t let you know because it throws a real curve ball in our game. But as we all know guys aren’t the only game players in relationships. Girls play their fair share of games too. Girls play it coy, they wait for you to make moves before strategizing their own, and girls honestly don’t always say what they mean. Why? Why wouldn’t girls just tell it like it is? What do girls want from their guys? Why does it seem like girls only want the guys who treat them badly? Just what is going on in the female mind? Why won’t girls give good guys a chance? Finally we can give you some answers. Here it is, as promised, a look at the 5 things your girlfriend doesn’t want you to know as told by Love Lady Tina Kells.

We like the chase – you chasing us.
Yep, it’s sad but true that when a guy is too eager to catch us we wonder why. What is wrong with this guy? Why is he so clingy? Is he a control freak? Is he a serial dater? A player with many girlfriends on the go? Is he insane? It’s not that we don’t want to be caught, we do, we just don’t want to feel trapped and when things happen too fast trapped is how we feel. We need to be sure of our feelings and of our attraction before we can step off the racetrack and give up the chase. You need to woo us to make us yours. Some guys lay out traps, saying all the right things and meaning none of them, in an attempt to woo us and this gives way to our biggest fear; falling prey to an insincere guy who is more about the game than being in a relationship. For this reason even once we’re yours, even once we are sure of your feelings and you are sure of ours, we need to still feel a little bit of the chase. When you chase us we feel like you want us and are willing to do some work to be with us and we don’t want that feeling to go away just because you’ve caught us.
2. When we say we’re “OK” or that things are “fine” the opposite is probably true.
Girls are communicators. It is hardwired in to our psyches to talk and talk and talk some more whenever there is discord or conflict. So if you sense there’s a problem and gather the courage to ask us and we respond with a “fine” or “it’s ok” or some other sentence with less than 7 (short) words chances are good that we really want to talk. So, you think, what’s a guy to do? You ask a question, you get an answer, and you plan based on that answer. Who wants to read between the lines or guess what is really going on? What a waste of time, right? Wrong! When girls pull the short answers out during a conversation it is because we want you to put the effort in to getting us to open up. It comes from a place of feeling like you don’t usually care what we have to say so we want you to put some effort in to getting us to talk so we can be sure we will be listened to. Now those perceptive guys among you may have your hands up right now waiting to ask the obvious question… if a girl feels like she’s not usually heard isn’t that the REAL problem? Yes, yes it is, and one little talk won’t stop that feeling of being marginalized. In psychology we call this a learned response, a behavior that does not come naturally but rather has been developed through a process called social conditioning. You may very well be the most attentive boyfriend since the dawn of time but if her previous guys made her feel insignificant or unheard you’ll have to help her carry that baggage. Heck, you’ll have to help her unpack it and put it away! So when your girl replies with a curt little answer to your questions don’t take her at face value. Calmly and gently ask her a few more times. Once she feels like you will hear her nature will take over and, voila! You’ll be communicating.
The girlfriend code broken.
3. We want you to have your guy time.
It is such a myth that girls don’t like to let their guy just hang with the boys. It's a terrible lie perpetrated by relationship-phobes throughout the ages. It is totally untrue that we want you to give up your life to be with us. Think of it this way… when we met you and fell for you, you were (hopefully) single and your friends were a big part of your life. Take your friends away and a big piece of the guy we fell for goes with them. So we want you to keep your guy time. We know you need your friends and truth be told we need our friends too. That being said, obviously when you are single you have lots of spare time to spend with friends but when you are in a relationship some of that time is going to be taken up by your significant other (A.K.A.

us). That is only normal. It is normal for you to need your guy time and it is normal for you to want to spend time with us. If you find the right balance the guy-time issue quickly becomes a non-issue. It is when we feel like you don’t make as much time for us as you do for them or that you resent being away from your friends when you are with us that the stereotypical “girlfriend verses the friends” scenario takes the stage. It’s all about balance. Spending time with your friends or with us will never be an issue as long as there is a balance and as long as we never feel that they mean more to you than we do or that they come always first.
4. We want to know your friends but aren’t so sure you need to know ours.
I’m not going to lie; this is hypocrisy in its most raw form. We want you to bring us around your friends, we want to know them and we want them to like us, but we aren’t quite as crazy about you knowing our friends. The why of this is as simple as it is irrational and here it is… we want to know your boys so we can understand the kinds of things they may get you to do when we’re not around. In short, will they encourage you to cheat on us, will they get you doing reckless and dangerous things, and will they help you engage in self-destructive activities? What we want to know is if they will be good or bad influences on you. We also want to create a buffer; we want your friends to like us so that they won’t want you to lose us. If there is no tension between your friends and us then we don’t need to fear them asking you to choose between love and friendship. Now on the flip side, we don’t really want you getting all chummy with our friends because we don’t want them to fill you in on all of our dirty little secrets. As previously noted girls are talkers by nature and we don’t want them to let something slip that may make you raise an eyebrow in our direction. We also fear, but will never admit fearing, you wanting one of our friends more than you want us. It’s bad enough to lose your guy to another girl but when that girl was once a friend, well, the sting is even sharper. So allow us this hypocrisy. It’s irrational, that's true, but it’s also quite harmless.
5. We worry that other girls look better now that you are in a relationship.
Mike nailed the core of every girlfriend's relationship insecurity on the head when he brought up the GIGS (Grass Is Greener Syndrome). The idea that life is better on the other side is one of the most destructive forces in relationship world and girls feel that guys fall for it way too often. It is a great fear of ours that once you can’t have other girls you will suddenly want them all. It leads to a lot of unfounded jealousy brought on by innocent comments on your part or casual non-flirtatious conversations with other girls. So what’s a guy to do? In a perfect world you’d stop interacting with other girls altogether but our rational super-ego knows that’s not realistic. What you need to do is follow these three simple rules; 1) never pay more attention to another girl than you do to your girlfriend, 2) never comment over and over how hot/cool/nice/fun another girl is, and 3) if you meet a great girl while you’re in a relationship hook her up with one of your buddies (also known as taking her off the market and getting her out of our face). And should you ever really get the itch to jump the fence and live life on the other side... just do it! Don’t lead us on, don’t cheat on us, don’t sneak around, just end the relationship. If it ends up being a GIGS fueled mistake… oh well, consider it a hard lesson learned and leave us alone... we won't want you back anyway!